tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28674373.post352241582762021264..comments2023-11-02T04:30:03.841-07:00Comments on Maryann Miller's - It's Not All Gravy: Parents - Stand BackMaryannwriteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09479027709233807149noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28674373.post-894368658861007072012-10-12T04:41:19.746-07:002012-10-12T04:41:19.746-07:00This is so, so true! It was my parenting style as ...This is so, so true! It was my parenting style as well. The "helicopter parents" of today are producing lazy kids with visions of entitlement.Laura Enohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09982794146667832204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28674373.post-46497275804405460772012-10-11T18:56:48.428-07:002012-10-11T18:56:48.428-07:00It's so hard for me to know when to stand firm...It's so hard for me to know when to stand firm. I do really well when it comes to the little things, but when it comes to stuff with the bigger consequences, I seem to cave... I need to work on that. Thanks for sharing...Linda Fischerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16192543797646727331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28674373.post-81920648257758915562012-10-10T06:46:43.633-07:002012-10-10T06:46:43.633-07:00Shaunda, you are so right about how the balance be...Shaunda, you are so right about how the balance between independence and dependence can empower parents as well as children. I know I have always felt good about myself in terms of my parenting. It wasn't always perfect, but it was done out of love and all my children have grown up to be well-rounded, successful adults.Maryannwriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09479027709233807149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28674373.post-71101209824912226672012-10-09T20:05:34.558-07:002012-10-09T20:05:34.558-07:00Teaching a child independence through love, rather...Teaching a child independence through love, rather than dependence through love is so empowering. Probably for both parent and child. Thanks for sharing this post!Shaundahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00888787546136552149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28674373.post-13929185255469762512012-10-08T20:34:56.111-07:002012-10-08T20:34:56.111-07:00LOL, Joyce. I seldom helped with homework if it wa...LOL, Joyce. I seldom helped with homework if it was math or science related. I did drill them on spelling words, though.Maryannwriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09479027709233807149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28674373.post-26144418433085606812012-10-08T13:46:29.302-07:002012-10-08T13:46:29.302-07:00Yeah, I used to help them with their homework unti...Yeah, I used to help them with their homework until I finally figured out that they got better grades when I didn't help them. sigh. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04164188328139258468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28674373.post-53384999054166107252012-10-08T13:40:49.960-07:002012-10-08T13:40:49.960-07:00D.G. I admit that I ran a few things to the school...D.G. I admit that I ran a few things to the school in the years I had kids going through elementary, but that was very rare. I really did think it was important for them to learn that in the real world nobody would pick up their slack.<br /><br />Marian, I agree that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to parenting, and it is important that kids know that parents have their back, so to speak. To me that means supporting them in their efforts to become adults capable of handling responsibility. If that means a bit of tough-love along the way, then I am all for that. D.G was so right, tho, about the importance of making sure we give them the tools to take care of those issues of responsibility.Maryannwriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09479027709233807149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28674373.post-26801893134989801752012-10-08T10:23:05.612-07:002012-10-08T10:23:05.612-07:00I think (and I'm sure you and the author would...I think (and I'm sure you and the author would agree) that parenting is not a one-size-fits-all proposition. Some kids need to know their parents have their back -- will bring in something important they forgot. Some kids would see that as an opportunity to slack. Like most vital things, the right way to do it depends on the case in hand.<br /><br />Marian Allen<br /><a href="http://MarianAllen.com" rel="nofollow">Fantasies, mysteries, comedies, recipes</a>Marian Allenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15842321321484056422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28674373.post-48341135445605043462012-10-08T07:56:43.670-07:002012-10-08T07:56:43.670-07:00I ran lunch over to the school a couple of times w...I ran lunch over to the school a couple of times when kids were in elementary school. Never homework. I was a working mom, and they learned about consequences if they didn't have their work ready.<br /><br />I don't believe in pushing them out of the nest too soon. Give them the tools first: how to do your laundry, how to cook a basic meal, paying bills, etc.D.G. Hudsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06213237734772028645noreply@blogger.com