Please help me welcome Anne O'Connell as today's Wednesday's Guest. She is here to share how her first book came about.
I’m
thrilled to be here on It’s Not All Gravy
on the occasion of the launch of my first novel, Mental Pause. I’ve been a writer all my life but mostly corporate
communications and PR but I’ve always had a flair for the dramatic and dreamed
of one day writing fiction. About three years ago I tested the waters and
submitted a couple of short stories to The Fiction Writers Platform (now The
Writers Platform) and both received an editor’s choice award!
Prior
to that, I had started freelancing and was doing corporate copy writing while
thoughts and dreams of being a novelist did a water ballet in the back of my
mind. Simultaneously, I began experiencing some rather uncomfortable
peri-menopausal symptoms. I honestly didn’t know what was happening at first,
only that I was horribly irritable. So much so that I couldn’t even stand being
around myself. I was also having crazy thoughts, tinged with paranoia, along
with such startling memory loss that it felt like I had had a lobotomy. It wasn’t until the night sweats started that
it finally dawned on me that I was experiencing ‘The Change.’ It was a shocking revelation as I was still
in my early-40s. It made me feel a little better knowing there was an
explanation for it all but didn’t make it go away.
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Then
one very sweaty, steamy night as I was lying there in a disgusting pool of
sweat, even though the A/C was blasting, and trying not to slime my poor
husband sleeping soundly beside me, I did what any writer would do… hit the
keyboard and poured out what I believed to be the mad ramblings of a
peri-menopausal woman. If anyone had seen me they would have thought I’d lost
it! I stifled the giggles so as not to wake my husband and wiped the tears and
just kept writing. I thought I might turn it into a blog but wasn’t really comfortable
exposing myself that openly. Then the idea hit. I could have even more fun with
it if I turned it into fiction.
As
luck would have it, I had recently heard about National Novel Writing Month
(NaNoWriMo), which was about to start, my husband had recently retired and we
had just moved to Thailand. I hadn’t really met anybody
and had a lot of time on my hands. I signed up and plunged in headfirst.
I
started segmenting the ‘ramblings’, categorizing and developing a loose
plotline. The first chapter sort of spilled out and characters started to take
shape. The more I wrote the more I dreamt about my main character, Abbie, her
thoughts and feelings, family and friends. I’d wake up with a start and run to
my computer to type out a description of one of my characters that I had seen
so vividly in a dream. The best plot twist in the book (in my opinion) came in
a dream!
It
was really cathartic to write it because no matter how bad I was feeling, how
crazy my mood swings or wild my thoughts were, Abbie’s were always worse. I
could also live vicariously through her. Without ruining the story for anyone
who plans to read it, I can share that I’ve always teased my mom that we’d both
get tattoos when I turn 50 and she turns 90! I’d really never do it because I
have absolutely no pain threshold and the thought of even one needle makes me
go weak in the knees, so I had Abbie get one.
Focusing
on writing and publishing Mental Pause
has really helped ground me and allowed me to face my change with a more
positive attitude. I talk more openly about it now and hope that, along with
enjoying the storyline, it can help other women as well. My mood swings seem to
have tapered off; I’m not having nearly as many night sweats and the hot
flashes aren’t noticeable since I live in a very warm and humid climate
anyways.
I’m
already working on my next novel so I hope that my diminishing symptoms won’t
limit my creativity! Having said that, I will happily seek inspiration elsewhere.
Thank you for your guest post, Anne. I've heard of creativity coming from a lot of sources, but this is the first to come from menopause. (smile) I can't wait to read the book.
For more about the book and Anne, check my Sunday post. You can visit Anne on her blog, Facebook, and Twitter.
On another note, and certainly not to take the spotlight away from Anne and her new novel, I do need to announce the National Wormhole Day Blog Hop sponsored by Laura Eno and Luanne Smith. Participants will be sharing where they would go if they could go forward or backward in time via a wormhole. This is to celebrate Albert Einstein's Birthday on March 14th. Come back tomorrow to see where I will go.
On another note, and certainly not to take the spotlight away from Anne and her new novel, I do need to announce the National Wormhole Day Blog Hop sponsored by Laura Eno and Luanne Smith. Participants will be sharing where they would go if they could go forward or backward in time via a wormhole. This is to celebrate Albert Einstein's Birthday on March 14th. Come back tomorrow to see where I will go.